When someone's struggling to figure out "who they are" - it isn't that they don't know themselves, but their purpose has become a question rather than a known answer.
A midlife crisis is one of those seasons, as is an empty nest, an involuntary career change, a chronic illness, a divorce, widowhood. When my girls left home, I filled my time with hobbies - not because that was my purpose, but it distracted me from the unfocused and uncomfortable feeling of being lost, a little boat cut loose from its anchor.
Who am I? Not exactly, more accurately - What's my purpose now? What's my direction? I spent many years focused on those people who now feel like bugs under a microscope, so I have to take responsibility for redirecting myself.
A season of discovery. A short season of naval gazing, perhaps, to figure out what I had to offer and making a decision of where and how to make the offer. My most developed skill set revolved around motherhood and family. But beneath that skill set is the desire that influenced me to be the mother I am/was.
That desire needed to be discovered and understood. It was the natural expression of what became important to me as I navigated my own life.
Are you in a season of wondering "Is this all there is?" If so, I can tell you - the answer is no. I don't need to know where you are, to know that if you feel that way - there is more for you. Have hope and keep reaching out.